At the end of one’s life, we will not be concerned with (1) how many times we went to a shopping mall, or (2) how many rounds of golf we played, but rather the important question will be: Did my life make a difference?

Consider telling someone this week they made or are making a difference in your life. One way to do this is to write an “I Remember” letter. The following is an example of an “I Remember” letter I wrote to an older friend, Rickie:

Dear Rickie,

I remember:

  • When your young son, Phillip, died you worked through your grief by caring for others.  You made blueberry muffins and visited a local nursing home each week for years.  When a local family grieved the death of a child, you wrote them a note of sympathy and hope.
  • How you always had chocolate kisses on your foyer table.
  • How you taught us to make Caesar salad, fettuccini and lamb chops.
  • How you would bring my family kettles of ox-tail, bean or minestrone soup. As I remember, I can almost smell and taste those soups. It is a cool fall day in Michigan; so, I would love some of your home-made soup!
  • Although you have had much sadness in your life, you have remained positive and loving and always giving.
  • How you continue to care for others in your new retirement home in California.  

Recently, I received the following quotation and it sums up how I feel about you:  “Sometimes, someone touches our heart and stays there forever.”

You have made a difference in my life and in the lives of many others.

Love and Respect,

Karen Mulder

Karen Mulder

Karen Mulder is the founder of the Wisdom of the Wounded ministry. She lives in Holland, Michigan with her husband Larry.


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