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4 Tips for Helping a Friend Who’s Having Marital Problems


Do you know what to say when a friend shares that he or she is having marital problems? You want to help and lend a caring ear, but you also know that saying the wrong thing might turn your friend away when they need you most. What if could sit down with a marriage counselor […]

Don’t Quote Scripture to a Suffering Friend


Editor’s note: the following story is adapted from Karen’s book, The Compassionate Congregation. Judy shares the following story: My sister, who had been one of my best friends, and I had a falling out. I was devastated. Despite my efforts to mend the situation she would not speak to me. I shared my heartache with […]

Before You Offer Advice, Stop and Ask These 5 Questions


Consider this scenario: your friend has told you about a difficult life situation he/she is currently experiencing. Your mind is swirling with possible suggestions on how to deal with this difficulty. Should you jump in with your advice? Marriage and Family Therapist Tony Bordenkircher says you might want to take a moment and reflect before […]

The Fixers Can’t Fix


As caregivers, we want to “fix” the hurting person. We feel that if we can rush in with the right “golden nugget” of wisdom to hand to the hurting person, all will be resolved. Then we can make a quick exit and get on with our own life. The truth is, seldom can we fix […]

Walk and Talk


I was depressed.  I could not get myself to do what I knew would help me. If you are seeking creative ideas, go out walking.  Angels whisper to a man when he goes for a walk.  ~Raymond Inmon I knew that a good brisk walk would give me energy and lift my spirits, but as  […]

Be a Caring Friend


Be still, and know that he is God. (Ps 46:10) How can you care for a friend who is suffering? Take some advice from Job’s friends.  Remember Job was a brokenhearted father and husband, wracked with disease and doubt and grief.  His friends heard about his troubles and set out to go and console and […]

Best Friend


Is it possible to be a “best friend” to all of your friends? It depends on what I mean. If I mean being each of my friends very closest friend, then definitely not. But if I mean being the best friend I know how to be to each of them, then it is possible. Do […]