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Create a Sports Basket


I asked two Sport Enthusiasts (another word for Sports Nuts), if they were home-bound or in the hospital, what would they like to see in a Sports Basket? Here are 12 ideas for what to put into a Sports Basket for your favorite Sports Enthusiasts: A coupon for delivered pizza Gift card for Buffalo Wings […]

Caregiving Basic: Preserve the Dignity of the Person


What do we see as we care for a person who is suffering? Do you see that person as a burden, an irritation, an interruption, or an old needy person? As caregivers–whether we are caring for a co-worker who is going through a divorce, or a friend who has cancer, or caring-full-time for a spouse or parent–we need to remember that the person is first of all a child created by God.

Don’t Forget The Patient


Sometimes I whisper, “Forgive me mom. I didn’t know.” My lovely mother died eight years ago, and when she was in a nursing home for six years, I certainly made some careless caregiving mistakes.

For example, when my mom was recovering from pneumonia and was bed-ridden, many grandchildren and relatives visited her. That was wonderful, but I was so happy to see some of these individuals that what was supposed to be a visit with my mother became a social occasion.

What to do when visiting someone in the hospital


Following are suggestions to guide you in visiting those who are ill. Since circumstances vary, some of the suggestions may not apply in a given situation. These may also apply to visiting someone in a nursing home.

Be There and Listen


A story which I heard 11 years ago reminds me of a powerful way to care for people who are hurting. Gregory Richards was a chaplain to terminally ill children in a New York hospital. He tells of one of his experiences in the following story:

322 Cards


Proverbs 17:17 says, “A friend loves at all times, and kinsfolk are born to share adversity.” My friend, Pat, had abdominal cancer. She tells the story of a friend who shared Pat’s adversity throughout her long cancer journey. Pat recalls, “Often when a person has a long-term illness, cards and phone calls become less frequent […]

Please Give Me A Foot Massage


When my friend, Pat, was dying, she asked, “Karen, will you please massage my feet?”  This request made me feel a little uncomfortable.  I didn’t know how.  I wasn’t trained.  Although I did remember how wonderfully soothing and relaxing it was when having my feet were massaged during a pedicure. Anyway, Pat handed me a […]