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Teenagers Grieve Too

02/14/2016

Victor Parachin, who is an ordained minister and has written several books on grieving, reminds us that too often teenagers feel “invisible” or are “forgotten grievers” when there has been a death. Yet, every day a teenager experiences the death of someone they know and love a parent, sibling, grandparent, schoolmate, friend or relative. Like […]

A Promise to Those Who Grieve

02/13/2016

In 1972 Joe Biden was elected to the Senate and a week later his wife and daughter were killed in a car crash.  In a 2012 speech, Joe Biden talked about the constant weight of grief.  He says, “Just when you think, ‘Maybe I’m going to make it,’ you’re riding down the road and you […]

Little Becomes Big

07/24/2014

Over and over, I am learning that our caregiving doesn’t have to be polished, perfect and profound. I believe that God takes each sincere, small, and clumsy gesture of caring and turns it into something big and beautiful. Jeff Mulder illustrates this “little-to-big caring” in the following story: Scott, a co-worker, died of a heart […]

Giving Room to Someone in Distress

02/05/2016

I read an on-line devotional called, “Stillspeaking Devotional” from the United Church of Christ.  I like the name because it affirms that God is still speaking to us.  We just need to listen.  I recently read a devotion titled, “The One Who Gives Us Room,” and the reflection was written by Talitha Arnold (author of […]

How to Comfort a Grieving Teen

02/15/2016

Editor’s Note: The following article is excerpted from the TEDx talk, “How to Comfort a Grieving Teen” by Bridget Park. “I am so sorry that this terrible thing happened to you.” “I am sure he is in a better place.” “It was so selfish of him to do that, and everyone knows it.” “One day […]

What To Say When Someone Is Crying

02/10/2016

Kim Hamer says, “What a person needs when going through a crisis is a witness. They need someone to acknowledge the fact that what they are going through is very difficult. Their life is crappy. They need you to be their witness.”

What do you say when someone is crying? You could say:

Why Does Grief Matter?

02/12/2016

We have all known loss.  The grief we’ve felt in the midst of our pain has perhaps seemed overwhelming. The most severe grief I have known, lasted for about two years. During that time, I struggled with depression, guilt, anger, resentment and even physical distress. I remember feeling so validated when I learned those feelings were […]