Aging and Elderly

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Caregiving Basic: Preserve the Dignity of the Person


What do we see as we care for a person who is suffering? Do you see that person as a burden, an irritation, an interruption, or an old needy person? As caregivers–whether we are caring for a co-worker who is going through a divorce, or a friend who has cancer, or caring-full-time for a spouse or parent–we need to remember that the person is first of all a child created by God.

The Wooden Bowl


A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in-law, and four-year old grandson. The old man’s hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred, and his step faltered. The family ate together at the table. But the elderly grandfather’s shaky hands and failing sight made eating difficult. Peas rolled off his spoon onto the floor. When he grasped the glass, milk spilled on the tablecloth.

The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess. “We must do something about father,” said the son. “I’ve had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating, and food on the floor.”

Are You Too Busy To See?


“Mam, do you need help?” Running late as usual, because I always have a hundred things on my plate, I noticed my gas tank was low. Frustrated, I pulled up to the gas pump, grabbed my credit card, jumped out of the car, swiped my card, and started filling the gas tank. How much gas […]

Will You Be My Pen Pal?


When Maggie was 7 years old, she asked her great grandma, “Will you be my pen pal?” Grandma Irene said, “Yes I would love to be your pen pal!” So, for a few years, they wrote letters to each other until Grandma could no longer write. Recently, at 101 years of age, Great Grandma Irene […]

72 Questions


Do you ever wonder what to talk about when you go to visit an elderly aunt, grandfather or parent? If so, check out Telling Life’s Stories on my website.  There you will find approximately 72 questions to ask someone about their life.  Such as: What was your favorite subject in school? Why? What was your first […]

Why Visit a Person Who Does Not Respond?


Why continue to visit a person when they do not respond? Elizabeth A. Havey, author of the blog Boomer Highway, offers this thought about visiting a loved one with dementia during the holidays: “Even though your mother, father or loved one will not remember that you were there, know that your acts of love and […]

No Retirement for Aunt Margaret


A story from Margaret Stanner, as told to Karen Mulder. Where in the Bible does it say, “When a person reaches the age 65 he or she can retire from doing good and loving his or her neighbor?” This wisdom is from my Aunt Margaret. She isn’t really my aunt, but I asked her to […]