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When Someone Is Grieving, Just Show Up and Help


Guest post by Colleen Arnold, MD I am a family doctor, a hospice volunteer physician, and a faithful Christian, but even armed with all of this, there was nothing I could do to save my 57-year-old husband from cancer. He died in 2015, less than six months after his diagnosis. Although friends and neighbors did […]

Your Presence is the Greatest Gift of All

A guest post by Katie Wilson 26 years ago, the phone rang in my college apartment. I had just spent the afternoon in the library studying, and now I was enjoying a movie rental and dinner with the love of my life, my boyfriend Jay. What more could a 21-year-old ask for, right? Life was […]

4 Tips for Helping a Friend Who’s Having Marital Problems


Do you know what to say when a friend shares that he or she is having marital problems? You want to help and lend a caring ear, but you also know that saying the wrong thing might turn your friend away when they need you most. What if could sit down with a marriage counselor […]

Ask, Don’t Tell


When a friend is suffering, we want to help. That assistance comes in many forms but often starts its journey with words. What’s the best way to start? Ask, don’t tell. Nobody likes to be “told” what to do, and it’s no different when a friend is experiencing a difficulty in life. Marriage and Family […]

Don’t Quote Scripture to a Suffering Friend

Editor’s note: the following story is adapted from Karen’s book, The Compassionate Congregation. Judy shares the following story: My sister, who had been one of my best friends, and I had a falling out. I was devastated. Despite my efforts to mend the situation she would not speak to me. I shared my heartache with […]

Before You Offer Advice, Stop and Ask These 5 Questions


Consider this scenario: your friend has told you about a difficult life situation he/she is currently experiencing. Your mind is swirling with possible suggestions on how to deal with this difficulty. Should you jump in with your advice? Marriage and Family Therapist Tony Bordenkircher says you might want to take a moment and reflect before […]

How to Care for a Friend Shattered by Infidelity

Editor’s note: The following story comes to us from “Mary.” Due to the sensitive nature of Mary’s situation, we have changed her name. Mary told me, “Two weeks before the birth of our son, the most dreadful thing happened:  I discovered that my husband was having an affair.  I had suspected it, but in every […]