Is Hope’s story your story?

No matter what Hope does in her marriage, something is always wrong. She tries to be a good wife. She reads books; she prays; she follows the advice from well-meaning friends. But she still hurts.

No matter what she does, her husband still treats her as if he doesn’t love her. He cuts her down. He yells at her. He demands she obey him. He is in charge of the money. If she doesn’t do what he wants, he gives her the silent treatment. He treats her in these ways, yet expects her to be physically intimate with him whenever he’s “in the mood.” Hope wonders if she is crazy; his words and actions make her feel that way.

Hope was abused by her husband for 21 years. He never hit her. He never did anything that warrants calling the police. Never the less Hope experienced domestic abuse which includes physical, sexual, verbal, emotional, or financial abuse.

Hope has a website called Hope’s goal is to educate people about domestic abuse so that the people affected by it can be freed to be whole, healthy human beings. Understanding abuse will also help the friends and family members of victims to know how they can be part of freeing the victims. Being aware of the dynamics of abuse can help people avoid abusive relationships when looking for a mate. Understanding abuse, and the underlying reasons it happens, may help well-meaning people not contribute to it.  Check out


Karen Mulder

Karen Mulder

Karen Mulder is the founder of the Wisdom of the Wounded ministry. She lives in Holland, Michigan with her husband Larry.


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