One day Larry George told me that some dear friends had just learned that their son had died from an overdose of drugs. Larry wondered what he could say to this mom and dad.

What can one say in a situation such as this?

Charles Swindol offers some advice: “Be real. Admit your honest feelings. If the news stunned you, say so. If you don’t know what to say, say just that. If you suddenly feel tears coming, cry. If you are overwhelmed with pity and compassion, admit it. When you allow your true feelings to show, you give me permission to also, ‘let go’ and express my honest feelings.”

Larry later told me that when he went to the funeral home, and approach his friends, the parents of the son who died from an over dose of drugs, he simply said with his heart full of sadness and compassion, “Angie, I don’t know what to say. I am just so sorry!” Angie said, ‘That is all you can say.’ Larry said then we hugged and cried.”

Be real. Be Honest.

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Karen Mulder

Karen Mulder

Karen Mulder is the founder of the Wisdom of the Wounded ministry. She lives in Holland, Michigan with her husband Larry.


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