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How do I help my sister who’s son was killed 4 years ago?

How do I help my sister who’s son was killed 4 years ago?

Dear Karen:

My sister's son was involved in a gang and was killed 4 years ago. She has not moved forward in her life and is still so crushed by this tragedy. She nor he is/was a believer so it is hard for me to give her comfort. I just let her know I love her but as far as heaven there is no hope. What can I share with her to help her to move forward and try to maybe use this to help others.

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What advice do you give to an adult son who is being abused by his mother?

What advice do you give to an adult son who is being abused by his mother?

Dear Karen,

I have a friend who's elderly mother has always been emotionally controlling, abusive and just down right mean. I would describe her as "toxic", just full of venom. She seems to have never learned any other way to get her needs met. I would say she is mentally ill. Her son, my friend, is the only family member willing to make sure she is cared for. What is your advice for the son in this case... day after day, week after week subjected to the assaults to his heart, soul and humanity as he tries to do the right thing for his mother? - Sarah