“A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.” Proverbs 29:11

Today’s wisdom is from Aaron Mulder.  Aaron is 10 years old and goes to South Olive Christian School in Holland, Michigan. (He wanted me to include that information.) He is also my grandson. (I wanted to include that information.)

A wise person in the book of Proverbs advises, “A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise person keeps himself under control.” But, how can we control our anger?

Here are Aaron’s five tips for controlling anger:

  1. Take deep breaths—slowly breath in and then slowly let each breath out—do this four or five times. Recently, at a family gathering, I saw Aaron take very long breaths and slowly let each one out.  I said, “Aaron, what are you doing?”  Aaron said, “My mom told me to take deep breaths when I am angry.”   You can learn to take deep breaths by blowing bubbles.
  2. Use a stress ball.  Play with a small rubber ball.  Get used to it and then when you are angry you can squeeze it slowly and let go.  Sometimes just having a ball in your hand makes you feel happy again.
  3. Pray.  I say, “Help me not be angry,” and, “I don’t want to be angry.”  It’s hard to pray when you are really angry, but praying every day that God will help me use my tools and not get angry so quickly has changed me.
  4. Read the Bible. I asked Aaron, “Are there some verses which you use over and over?”  Aaron responded, Psalm 19:14 “May the meditation of my heart and the words of my mouth be pleasing in your sight, O God.”
  5. Do something positive. Some other things I have tried or heard other people have tried are doing something physically positive when angry. For example, running to the mailbox and back (I have a long driveway).  Also, duct tape up a small cardboard box and call it “my angry box.”  Put it away until you are angry and when angry, kick it around in a safe place. You can even write words or draw pictures of things that make you angry or describe your feelings and put those inside the box before you tape it up.  Also, one can punch things that are safe like pillows or your bed.

When you are angry, try Aaron’s five tips!  Thank you, Aaron, for sharing your five tips for controlling one’s anger.

“A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise person keeps himself under control.”  Proverb 29:11


Sherri Maat

Sherri Maat