Karen Mulder

Recent Articles

How to Care for a Friend Shattered by Infidelity


Editor’s note: The following story comes to us from “Mary.” Due to the sensitive nature of Mary’s situation, we have changed her name. Mary told me, “Two weeks before the birth of our son, the most dreadful thing happened:  I discovered that my husband was having an affair.  I had suspected it, but in every […]

12 Date Night Ideas to Help Nurture Your Marriage


Chris and Becky Marlink have established a wonderful Valentine’s Day tradition that allows them to make time for each other on a regular basis. Each year, Chris gives Becky 12 envelopes with ideas for date nights.  “12 date nights means time together throughout the year,” says Chris—and it also means no vegging out in front […]

Valentine’s Day: 12 Envelopes, More Connection with Your Mate


By Chris Marlink   “A great marriage takes TIME.” — Captain Obvious A flourishing marriage takes time A flourishing marriage requires the investment of significant amounts of time. That’s obvious, right? No one stumbles into relational bliss. You have to sweat for it. You have to put in the time. The thing is, even if […]

What to do for a Friend Dealing with Infidelity


Do you know what to do if your friend shares that her husband is having an affair? You might not know what to say, or how to best care for your friend in her time of need. Here are seven things people have shared that were helpful when they were going through this painful time […]

The Power of Healing Touch in Caregiving

For a moment, stop and recall what it feels like to have your hands massaged. What sensations and words come into your mind?  I think of words like soothing, relaxing, peaceful and “oh, that’s so nice!” Almost everyone will appreciate a hand massage, even men. Several years ago when I was in Haiti, we visited […]

New Year’s Care Well Challenge


Are you ready to make care giving a regular part of your life? As the New Year begins, many people are thinking about making resolutions and starting new habits to live better lives. Now, maybe New Year’s resolutions aren’t really your “thing.” But perhaps you could resolve to include caregiving in your daily life. Imagine […]

Don’t Talk Down to the Elderly


Letty Pogrebin in her book, How to Be a Friend to a Friend Who’s Sick, gives advice on how to care for a sick friend. Her advice can be applied to all caregiving situations. One of her suggestions is: “Don’t infantilize the patient. Never speak to a grown-up the way you’d talk to a child. […]