Why continue to visit a person when they do not respond?
Elizabeth A. Havey, author of the blog Boomer Highway, offers this thought about visiting a loved one with dementia during the holidays:
“Even though your mother, father or loved one will not remember that you were there, know that your acts of love and kindness are appreciated IN THE MOMENT. You are making a difference for that person IN THE MOMENT.”
I remember a professional caregiver told me that it is important to keep visiting a person with dementia even when they cannot respond. She said it was like going to a wonderful movie that is heartwarming, encouraging and positive and you walk out and you feel good about yourself and the world. That feeling may linger for several days. That is what it is like for a person with dementia. When you visit, they can feel your kindness and love. They can’t put those feelings into words, but they feel the warmth and peace and love . . . . on the inside.
So reach out not only at Christmas time, but all through the year to those who have dementia. You will be blessed, and so will they.
For more caregiving wisdom on Alzheimer’s and Dementia follow the links below:
Handling The Holidays With Dementia
Signs of Alzheimer’s
Older People Have Ears and Feelings
Helpful Caregiving Question