James Cook says in our book, The Compassionate Congregation, “The most difficult time for my wife, Jean, and me was dealing with the two and a half year losing battle with cancer waged by our nineteen year old son, Paul. Within days of the diagnosis, his left leg was amputated two-thirds above the knee, and after metastasis he endured a series of six lung surgeries”.
James emphasizes, “Care to those who are in grief means always asking about the crisis, not avoiding it. If it is too painful for the one suffering to talk about their grief, they will say so. As caregivers, we need to remember that the crisis is the most important thing in their lives. They will want to talk about it, perhaps cry about it. Offering care can mean offering them an opportunity to do both in the presence of someone who loves them.”