Even though your mother, father or loved one will not remember that you were there bringing gifts and loving them, hold this memory in your own heart. Know that your acts of love and kindness toward this person are appreciated IN THE MOMENT. You are making a difference for that person IN THE MOMENT. And that’s a memory that you can be proud of–you made a difference for someone with dementia.
I remember a professional caregiver told me that it is important to keep visiting a person with dementia even when they cannot respond. She said it was like going to a wonderful movie that is heartwarming, encouraging and positive and you walk out and you feel good about yourself and the world. That feeling will linger for several days. That is what it is like for a person with dementia when you visit, they can feel your kindness and love that generates inside and makes them feel good. They can’t put those feelings into words for you, but they are there.
So reach out not only at Christmas time, but all through the year to those who have dementia and you will be blessed and so will they.