WISDOM

10/02/2014

“My father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person, he believed in me.” – Jim Valvano

I believe that no matter what a person’s age, we still want to know that our dads are proud of us.  My Dad died nearly thirty three years ago.  Previous to his death, he told me often, “I love you,” but I don’t remember him ever saying, “I am proud of you, or I like the way you . . .”  I knew that he loved me, but I have always longed—even today—to know that he also liked who I was and was proud of me.

I remember asking my mother sometime after my Dad died, “Did Dad ever say to you that he was proud of me?”  She said, “Your Dad loved you.”  I responded, “I know that, but did he ever say, ‘I am so proud of Karen because she graduated from college, or because Karen is a good mother?’  Did he ever say anything like that?”  She quietly responded, “Your Dad didn’t share his feelings much.”

Please affirm your children.

Will each of your children say, “My father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person, he believed in me.”