Don’t Talk Down to the Elderly


Letty Pogrebin in her book, How to Be a Friend to a Friend Who’s Sick, gives advice on how to care for a sick friend. Her advice can be applied to all caregiving situations. One of her suggestions is: “Don’t infantilize the patient. Never speak to a grown-up the way you’d talk to a child. […]

Pep Talks Aren’t Reassuring to Military Families


Sometimes, words meant to reassure have the opposite effect. Jeri, whose son served in the military, offers an example of well-meaning friends who tried to make her feel better by giving her “pep talks” about her son’s time in the military. Jeri says: I received a number of “reassuring” pep talks from well-meaning people when […]

Practical Tips for Helping Military Families

How can we care for the families of military service members? There are so many ways! Here are several ideas from Jeri, whose son served in the military. The suggestions below help the parent who is managing all the details of their everyday lives while their spouse is away. Laundry duty:  Offer to do the […]

How to Keep Your Sense of Humor When You Are a Caregiver

Being a caregiver for someone can be stressful, especially if you are the primary caregiver to someone who needs full time assistance. Although there are many ways to practice self-care, one idea that’s often overlooked is the ability to rely on your sense of humor to help you get through the challenges in your day. […]

20 Ideas for Caregivers Who are Feeling Overwhelmed

Are you providing long-term care for someone? Caregiving can be a thankless, exhausting job. When you’re so busy taking care of someone else, how do you take care of you? Even though it may seem selfish to think about taking care of yourself when the care-receiver requires so much attention, you must do so.  In […]

What to Say When Someone Shares Their Domestic Violence Story


Guest post by Sue Would you know what to say if a friend shared that she was experiencing domestic violence? When someone you care about opens about her abusive situation, here are some recommended responses that help her know you want to help:  “I believe you.” One of the best ways to demonstrate your support […]

Avoid These Phrases When Someone Shares Their Domestic Violence Abuse Story

Guest post by  Sue What do you say to someone when she reveals that she is being abused? Anyone with a compassionate heart will feel strong emotions when hearing this news. While speaking to a domestic violence victim is best done by speaking from your heart, be sure that your emotions don’t cause you to […]

Self Care Tips for Full Time Caregivers


“I feel like a caged bird!” This is what a 60 year old woman said at one of our caregiving workshops.  She was the full-time caregiver of her husband who had Alzheimer’s.  “My freedom is gone.  I am on duty 24 hours a day!” Donita Robards understands this feeling. She is a registered nurse (and […]

Caregiving Tips for Visiting a Friend in the Hospital


Submitted by: Lisa Barker The following story is from Lisa, who offers advice from her own experience of a month-long stay in a hospital. Lisa says, “After gallbladder removal surgery, at the age of twenty-five years old I was unexpectedly diagnosed with a rare liver condition. Within eighteen hours I was in liver, kidney, and […]

Tips from a Young Widow: How to Help Those Who are Grieving

Debbie was a stay-at-home mom of four young boys when her husband passed away unexpectedly. At 35, she was thrust into widowhood. “In an instant, my worst fear became my reality. An unchangeable reality,” writes Debbie, in this blog post. Debbie, who is a fitness coach and runs the blog Momsanity, recalls the weeks immediately […]

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