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How To Care For A Person Who Has Been Abused

10/29/2015

How I Can Help handout When someone you know is experiencing abuse in their relationship: Listen and believe them! Minimizing or excusing the abuse does not help.  Show empathy and understanding. Don’t automatically tell them to leave. Help them to feel empowered to explore their options, make their own decisions, and support them in their […]

I Was Afraid To Talk

10/15/2015

My life as a boy was filled with violence, blood and hiding places. My siblings and I were shuffled back and forth between our violent-alcoholic parents and a terribly abusive orphanage.

I carried the abuse inside me like a brick. I felt like I had so many bad secrets that I wasn’t supposed to tell anyone, and I was so scared to let them slip that I stopped talking.

An Elephant, A Chain & Freedom

10/01/2015

Can a bicycle chain hold an elephant in place? Yes it can!

Josh McDowell tells a story about a chained elephant which reminds us of some adults who are chained to their horrific past of physical, emotional or sexual abuse. Josh writes:

“We’re like a circus elephant tied down by a bicycle chain. We ask how one small chain could hold a powerful elephant. The trainer explains that the chain doesn’t hold him; it’s the elephant’s memory that keeps him from trying to escape.

My Grandfather Sexually Abused Me

10/09/2015

Acknowledging the abuse was horrible.

Admitting that my grandfather had sexually abused me meant three things: first, he didn’t love me; second, no one in my family cared enough about me to know that I was hurting or to protect me; third, I felt like a piece of litter that no one even bothered to throw in the trash. Realizing that no one really cared about me when I was a child was the most painful part of my healing process.