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Don’t say, “I understand”


I suspect that the most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention. When people are talking . . .listen to what they’re saying. Care about it. It has taken me a long time to believe in the power of simply saying, “I’m so sorry,” when someone is in pain. And meaning it. One of my patients told me that when she tried to tell her story people often interrupted to tell her that they once had something just like than happen to them.

The Power of Listening


Two ears, one mouth – pause – What might God be telling us? Which do you prefer more when you’re dealing with an issue – someone telling you what you need to do, OR someone listening to you while you explain what’s going on?  I’m guessing most of you would choose the latter. Intentional listening […]



One of the most important and helpful guideline for effective caregiving is to pray.  To pray is to acknowledge the presence of God. To pray is to connect with God; so, that God can empower us. “I do not believe we can ever say prayer is wasted; some good always comes of it. Although our […]

Avoid Using Cliches & Quick Fixes


Avoid saying: “Everything will be just fine.” “I understand. . .” “Be strong.” Or “You are a strong person.” “Tomorrow will be a brighter day.” “When the going gets tough, the tough going.” “Win some. Lose Some.” “You’ve got to pull yourself together.” “This too shall pass.” “You know what the Bible says . . […]

How To Love Another


Jesus says, “Love one another as I have loved you.” (John 15:12) Bruce Larson says, “One of the best ways to demonstrate God’s love is to _____________ to people.” Can you fill in the blank? Check out your answer with the correct answer on “Go Light Your World Today,” as I talk about one of […]