WISDOM

Preserve the Dignity

Recent Articles

Don’t Talk Down

02/19/2016

Letty Pogrebin in her book, How to Be a Friend to a Friend Who’s Sick, gives advice on how to care for a sick friend. Her advice can be applied to all caregiving situations. One of her suggestions is: “Don’t infantilize the patient. Never speak to a grown-up the way you’d talk to a child. […]

Older People Have Ears and Feelings

02/18/2016

Do we sometimes forget that older people have ears and feelings? Please remember that even though an elderly person may be experiencing some dementia, they still have ears and can hear. They still have feelings, and they still struggle to hold on to some self-respect and dignity. Follow the wise saying which my mother taught […]

How to Show Respect to a Person With Autism

02/20/2016

Remember  The person with autism is first of all a real person. Treat the person the way you would like to be treated.  Remember that non-verbal people can hear. Remember that we, the parents, are doing our best. Remember that we, the parents, enormously need support and encouragement. The most helpful expression communicates, “You are […]

I am a real person!

02/17/2016

I was born legally blind and became functionally blind at age thrity-two. I have a very supportive husband, two children , and a leader dog. I function very well as director of disabled students at Hope College in Holland, Michigan. Although I have obviously become sensitized to people with disabilities, I still make mistakes in dealing with my students. I have learned caregiving in an area that takes constant correction. I have found that it is important to give myself permission to make mistakes.

Rachel’s Story

12/09/2011

RACHEL’S FATHER SHARES: A father with tears in his eyes told me about his daughter, Rachel. He said that during her twenties, she went through a difficult time–a time of rebellion–a time of making some hurtful and harmful choices. During this time she acquired an armful of tattoos.

The father continued, “Today Rachel is in her thirties. She is a responsible and talented woman and a devout follower of Jesus Christ, but she feels rejected when she enters most churches.”

Preserve the Dignity

11/05/2011

What do you see when you are caring for another person? Do you see someone who is a burden, an irritation, an old needy person, or do you look for the strength and beauty of God’s image in that person? Do you help, in your method of caregiving, to preserve that person’s dignity?

Max and Wing-Tip Shoes

11/04/2011

Hello Mrs. Cousins: This is Max.  I am a former student of yours. I do not think I ever had an opportunity to thank you.  You were instrumental in the successes I have enjoyed in my life.  I was a lost kid looking for someone to understand me.  I wore a hearing aide, which was an […]