But What If I Don’t Like My Father?


Broken Pieces

Sometimes we forget that not all children can celebrate their father on Father’s Day.  Maybe because of abuse, neglect, desertion a relationship has been broken.

A lovely young woman recently said to me, “How can I celebrate Father’s Day when I do not have a relationship with my father? Years ago my father told me that he wanted nothing to do with me or my family.   I was told that we were done, and was asked to stay away, citing my reconciliation with my mother as ‘the stupidest thing I’ve ever done.’  She continued, “I have made my peace with this and now see that this is not someone I want in my life or in the lives of my children.”  (May I add, “But it still is a loss and it hurts.”)

So how will Amy (name changed) celebrate Father’s Day?  She said that the song, “Piece by Piece” by Kelly Clarkson has helped change her focus from her father to the father of her children.  On Father’s Day she will celebrate her husband who is a kind, loving and an involved Father.

The words from the song, “Piece by Piece” that helps Amy and others are:

He never walks away
He never asks for money
He takes care of me
He loves me

Piece by piece

He restored my faith

That a man can be kind

And a father could stay

Thank you Lord for all the Fathers who are kind and who stay.

Kelly Clarkson – Piece by Piece– YouTube

Read Amy’s full story, “My Experience with Parental Alienation Syndrome.”

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