After a boating accident, Jim spent many days in the hospital. One day his wife said to me, “Jim daily receives many cards, gift cards, visits and other gestures that say, ‘We care about you, Jim!’ That is wonderful; however meanwhile the non-hospitalized caregiver, that’s me, rushes around trying to care for the patient, the family, the home, and other responsibilities. It would be so nice if someone would care for me.”
So, remember the major caregiver by inviting the person for dinner, or to stop by on the way home for a sandwich or dessert and coffee. Also, you can help the tired caregiver by doing little things, like mowing the lawn, driving their kids to school functions, cleaning the house, taking the caregiver out for dinner or to a movie, or for a round of golf. Also greatly appreciated is when someone offers to stay with the patient so that the caregiver can have a break.
So please remember to also care for the caregiver.