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A Meaningful Sympathy Card
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03/09/2016

Receiving a note or card is like being hugged.

Elsie, whose son committed suicide, said, “I especially valued those sympathy cards and notes which contained some of the sender’s personal thoughts and words remembering something that they admired or appreciated about my deceased loved one.” There are many beautiful sympathy cards available, but to make the cards more meaningful include some of your personal words/thoughts.

Elsie said, “I kept all the notes and cards in a scrapbook. The personal notes continued to bring me quiet joy and courage every time that I read them.”

Elsie shares the sample of sentences which were a blessing to her and her husband:

  • “I hug you to my heart.”
  • “Sometimes it is not possible to express feelings. This is one of those times.” (After the memorial service this former classmate of Larry’s wept and hugged us.)
  • “May you see Larry surrounded by God’s love, content and happy.”
  • “May God hold you in his hand and carry you forward until some understanding of all this comes and healing begins. It will come and it will begin for you and all of your many friends, but for now it is so muddled. We love you dearly.”
  • “On Sunday mornings we greet each other with ‘the Peace of Christ be with you.’ Last Sunday that prayer and promise took on new meaning as we thought of you and your pain. That prayer will continue to be our prayer for you in the days ahead.”

For more suggestions on what to say in your note see: “Words that Help” in 109+ Ways to Say ‘I Care.’ Personal notes will continue to bring comfort, strength, love and energy as the grieving persons read and reread them.

From: The Compassionate Congregation, Karen Mulder and Ginger Jurries

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